It is ironic how parents nowadays desire to impart certain characteristics that they wish will cultivate into the polar opposite when they grow up. The fact is that the way you bring up your kids will mould the foundation of who they will become when they get older.
For example, if you desire your children to grow up with a mind of his/her own, then don’t expect total obedience when they are younger. Make them question their own actions. This is just simple logic that many of us may somehow have neglected.